CHASTITY MISTRESS - FORCED CHASTITY
From Dustin K:
Dear Ms Elise, I recently stumbled across your site and was captivated by it. I read all of the Real Life Stories and I decided that I should write you to share my real life FemDom experience. I am a submissive man who is married to a woman who is now my 24/7 Mistress. Although we are still legally married, my current role is that of my wife' slave.
My wife Sarah and I were married at the age of twenty-eight. I told her of my submissive fantasies and she role-played with me some at the beginning of our marriage but for the most part she showed little interest in D&S or Female Domination. We had a good marriage but we often fought as we both tried to dominate the other when it came to who would make the decisions in our marriage. The funny thing is that we attended pre-martial counseling to avoid such conflicts and my wife told our counselor that she wanted me to be the head of our marriage. However, once we were married, she found out that she did not enjoy being submissive to me so she tried to get things her way all of the time. This caused some pretty good fights between us. I was interested in Female Domination but I also wanted to call the shots in our marriage. I guess I felt that I knew what was best and so did she.
Other than our occasional power struggles, we enjoyed a close friendship and a good marriage for the first seven years. Then about four years ago at the age of thirty-five, my wife discovered that I had been visiting FemDom sites on the Internet. My wife knows more about computers than I do and I did not realize that our browser kept a history of all the sites we visited. She knew this so she monitored what sites I was visiting.
I had told my wife about my FemDom fantasies when we first got married so she was not too surprised by her discovery of my web surfing habits. Unbeknownst to me, Sarah began to read the sites I visited and found a few that she enjoyed as well. She started from the sites that I visited and she found others through links that lead to other sites. She became interested in the FemDom sites that talked about how women can use their husband's fantasies to their advantage. She particularly liked your site, Mistress Lori's chastity site and Patty and Ron's male chastity site. Her favorite sites were about male chastity.
Sarah kicked around the idea of Female Domination over the next year as she debated within herself if this was a lifestyle she wanted to pursue with me. She continued to monitor my web activity and she continued to do her own research. Eventually she told me about her discovering my web surfing habits and she began to ask me questions. Three years ago, Sarah came to me and asked me if I still wanted to be dominated by her in the bedroom. I told her that I did as I had fantasized about it since I was a teenager. Sarah calmly explained to me that she would be willing to dominate me but it had to be real to her and not a game in order for her to enjoy it. She was honest and told me that she also needed to get something out of this lifestyle. She said that she would have to take it out of the bedroom in order for it to be fulfilling to her. She explained to me that her fantasy was to become the head of our marriage and to force me into total submission to her in all areas of our life. I was excited and hesitant about her proposal but I figured I could always manipulate her and top her from below if need be, therefore I agreed. I totally underestimated her resolve and commitment.
It started out being everything I had hoped for. We communicated about everything and Sarah asked me what kind of D&S type activities I desired and she did them to me. She bought books like "S&M 101" and "Different Loving" so she could be knowledgeable about D&S activities. It started out with her wearing sexy leather outfits and her spanking me and tying me up. We had frequent sex during these sessions and I was really enjoying it. Also, she was making very few demands on me outside of the bedroom so I figured I was having my cake and eating it too. That soon began to change.
Sarah bought me a CB2000 and told me that she wanted me to get use to wearing a chastity device. The thought of her controlling my sexual release was exciting to her and although I was not crazy about the idea, I knew I had to try things that interested her if I wanted her to continue to dominate me in the bedroom, so I agreed to wear it. It was bulky and uncomfortable at first but I eventually got use to wearing it. She did not make me wear it for long periods of time in the beginning so I was kind of enjoying the chastity scene. However, once I started to get use to the CB2000, Sarah began to make me wear it for weeks at a time. She worked me into this but once she had me where she wanted me, she began to exercise some real dominance over me. It was exciting but also scary. I had never seen this side to Sarah. She became almost consumed with her power and a desire to dominate me.
The longer I was denied, the more aroused and obedient I was to her. I began to desire to worship her body all the time. Sarah began to have me orally pleasure her for long sessions. I was always locked up in the CB2000 and I would have to tongue her ass and lick her pussy for hours. Sarah was always a sensual woman but she became even more sexual with her new dominance over me. By the way, Sarah is a brunette with long hair, dark eyes, about 5"5' and a large but firm and voluptuous body. She has large breasts, a large ass and she is big boned and firm, but not fat.
I was becoming so frustrated and I was begging her for sexual release. I use to masturbate but now I was no longer able to masturbate and Sarah was only allowing me to climax about once every two weeks. I found this to be very frustrating. I was beginning to dream about Sarah and her body. I was having problems concentrating at work, as she was on my mind almost all of the time. I was becoming more submissive toward her as well. She was beginning to make all the decisions in our marriage and I found myself agreeing with her and not arguing. All I wanted to do was lick her pussy and be smothered by her ass. Sarah did lots of face sitting sessions with me and I could not get enough of orally pleasuring her and she could not get enough pleasure. I would grow so hard and fill the CB2000 cage and my balls would ache from being aroused and denied. I would go to bed and fantasize about Sarah and the only relief I was getting were occasional wet dreams. When I would confess this to her, she would punish me by administering a whipping. Sarah did not particularly enjoy whipping me, as she was not that interested in the physical areas of D&S. Sarah enjoys the psychological power exchange and that is why forced male chastity excited her. Nevertheless, she would punish me physically when I disobeyed her and wet dreams were a violation of her rules. So she would tie me to her bed and whip me quite hard with a riding crop she had purchased.
Sarah was assigning me chores to do around the house and she was severely limiting my television and Internet time. Sarah began to shave my body and make me hairless. My genitals were already hairless, as this was a must to wearing the CB2000. But now Sarah was also shaving my underarms, my chest, my legs and my entire body. She wanted me smooth and hairless for her. She experimented with feminizing me and she would dress me up in feminine lingerie and have me do chores around the house. She also had me orally service her while I was dressed feminine. Once again, I was becoming more submissive toward her. I desired her more and we would have marathon sessions where she would sit on my face and I would tongue her ass and lick her to multiple orgasms. We also experimented with me using toys on her like a dildo and a vibrator. Sex was becoming totally about her orgasms and satisfaction and less about mine. My only orgasms were supervised masturbation sessions that she monitored. She kept extending the times between orgasms and pretty soon, I was only getting sexual relief about once every four to six weeks.
Sarah grew tired of the forced feminization and she decided that she liked controlling me better when I looked masculine but acted feminine. About two years ago at the age of thirty-seven, Sarah took our relationship to the edge. She wanted ultimate control over me. She loved being the boss and she knew she never wanted to go back. Sarah found a web site by a Mistress Lori who sold chastity devices. On this site, Lori talked about making your husband into a male lesbian. This really excited Sarah, as this is how our relationship had practically become. I was permitted to make love to my voluptuous wife using only my tongue and her toys. She was cutting my orgasms back to longer periods of denial.
Sarah came to me one day and said that we needed to have an important discussion. Sarah knew that she had gained incredible control over me but she also knew that this lifestyle had to be one of mutual respect and consent. Sarah told me that she was going to give me a choice. She liked our current arrangement but she wanted total power and control over me. Although I had become a pretty good submissive husband, she still felt that I challenged her authority at times and she did not like how I always questioned her about her comings and goings. Sarah told me that in her judgment, what was holding her back from exerting total power over me was the fact that I still viewed myself as her husband and this caused me to try to have an equal footing with her. Sarah said that while most couples can balance between the two, she could not.
She was honest with me and told me that she loved dominating and controlling a man the way she was dominating and controlling me. Sarah told me that she wanted to transform me from being her submissive husband into a male lesbian and into her 24/7 slave. She showed me pictures she had printed off of Lori's chastity site of permanent chastity devices. Sarah then told me that she wanted to place such a device on me. The choice was mine; I could be her husband or her slave, but not both. If I chose to be her husband, then all D&S activities would stop and we would both try to put our FemDom desires aside. However, if I chose to be her slave, then she would take me as deep into submission as a man can go to a woman. I would cease being her husband and would exist to tend to her needs and desires with no right to ever question her. She gave me a week to decide but she added that if I would decide to be her slave, this decision would be the last decision she would ever allow me to make.
I could not get over how dominant she had become. She was so hot and desirable like this. I felt weak in the knees and I knew that I wanted to be her slave. If she had given me this choice a year prior, I may have chosen to remain her husband but after experiencing her dominant and controlling nature, I knew that I would not be satisfied with being anything other than her 24/7 slave. I did have one concern. I asked her, if I decided to be her slave, would I still get to be intimate with her by orally servicing her ass and pussy? Sarah told me that she enjoyed me being her male lesbian and that she had no plans to end that part of our relationship. However, she told me that once I was her slave, that she had the right to change things. As long as I pleased her, she would more than likely allow me access to worship some areas of her body but it would be a reward and a privilege and not a right. She also told me that she would have the right to date and take a lover if I were her slave. She promised me that she had no one in mind at this time but she wanted me to know that once I was her slave, it would be none of my business what she did or who she saw.
I hesitated but her matter of fact and confident way of telling me all of this excited me. I took the entire week and thought about it long and hard. At the end of the week, I went to Sarah and told her that I loved her and that I decided that our relationship was best with her in charge. Therefore, I chose to be her slave. Sarah smiled her approval of my decision and she made me kneel before her. She went and got a dog collar and placed it around my neck and she ordered me to humble myself by kissing her feet.
Sarah ordered me one of Lori's chastity devices off of her site and she took me to see a woman she had met who did body piercing. I did not know what she had in mind but once we got to this woman's place and I found out, I hesitated and slightly protested. Sarah stood up to me and dominated me with her voice right in front of this other woman. I backed down. I had lost all of my backbone to her. I am kind of ashamed to admit this, but I was so pussy whipped by my wife that I allowed this woman to pierce my penis with a frenum piercing and then they installed Mistress Lori's permanent chastity device on me. It was not permanent right away, but it would soon become that.
My body accepted the piercing and chastity device and Sarah monitored how I did in it over the next six months. I was able to do all functions like urinate and shower. However, this device was so restrictive, that I could no longer get a full erection. Sarah would not let me out of it (it had a lock on it and she had the key) but she gave me a monthly orgasm via a prostate milking. The milking gave me release but not pleasure. It was very frustrating but this only further excited Sarah. The good news for me was that the more she was excited the more I got to orally pleasure her. Sarah bought an attachment to the chastity device which is a latex sheath that goes over the chastity device so the woman can have intercourse but the man feels no pleasure. This was incredible frustrating. Sarah would mount my penis and ride me but I could feel no sensations. I loved watching her breasts bounce up and down and feeling her body on top of mine, but it was really weird not feeling her pussy even though I was inside of her.
Once Sarah determined that I could function in my permanent chastity device, she had some more surprises in store for me. Sarah was basking in her power and control over me but she wanted that control to be total and complete. Sarah had legal documents made up where all of our assets were transferred to her. Furthermore, she required that my paycheck be direct deposited into her account. Sarah had found a feminist lawyer and she took me to see her. Sarah ordered me to sign the papers that gave her power of attorney over all of my affairs, legal control over all of our assets and other such things. One document stated that I agreed to our form of an alternative lifestyle and that I would never hold it against my wife legally. One of the sections in that document was my confession that it was my idea and my choice to wear a chastity device and that I wanted my wife to deny me sexual release. Another section said that I consented to my wife having sexual relations with another person if she would ever so choose because it was all a part of our alternative lifestyle and thus I agreed to never hold it against her legally.
I was terrified by all of this but I became aroused and submissive when she presented it for me to sign. The woman who gave me the piercing showed up and was the legal witness. I was there in the presence of three women, my wife, her friend and the female lawyer. I will never forget how submissive and humiliated I felt as Sarah handed me the pen to sign these documents. I was also excited and although I could not get erect due to the chastity device, I was full of submission and sexual excitement. I willfully signed the documents and Sarah and the female witness added their signatures. It was official. I was now under my wife's total control and dominance. Sarah had achieved her goal but that was not the end of it for me on this day.
After we left the lawyers office, we went back to her friend's place where I had gotten pierced and fitted with my chastity device. Sarah and her female friend removed the device for the first time in over six months but they quickly reinstalled it but this time with the breakable screws that Lori offers with her chastity devices. Sarah then informed me that since I was no longer her husband but her slave, that my chastity would be permanent. Once the device was firmly back in place, she broke off the ends of the screws and her friend filed the ends. Now the only way out would be to get the chastity device cut off medically. I have been in this device ever since and I am milked once a month for release but I am no longer able to get fully erect.
Since that day, Sarah has really stepped up her dominance over me. I do all the household work now and I am only permitted to orally service her as a reward for excellent servitude. Sarah makes me work hard for the right to tongue her ass and lick her pussy. I am in total submission to Sarah. She is now my Mistress and only my wife in a legal sense. I am whipped once a week for discipline and I do all the housework for her. She owns everything and I am her slave. I sexually desire her all the time and I have become her male lesbian when she permits me intimacy. It has been a real challenge adjusting to this but overall I must confess that I am happy. I love her and I feel very attached to her. We have connected in ways I never would have dreamed was possible. I would be very content for things to have stopped there. However, she wanted to go even deeper.
Sarah met a younger man (twenty-nine) whom she wanted to date. He is also a submissive man and Sarah trained him to be a good submissive and after she became comfortable with him, she took him to bed. His name is Shawn and he has become Sarah's boyfriend and lover. She has sex with him and I am not talking about just allowing him to worship her body. He actually gets to fuck her. Sarah told me that she feels this is good for me because it is ridding me of all male jealousy and that I am learning humility. She told me that I need to place her needs ahead of mine and that I should be happy that she is happy with her young lover. Sarah tells me this is all a part of the process of her controlling and dominating me.
This is where we are to date. That is our real life story. I have read all about cuckolding on your site and I have a better understanding of what my wife is doing to me. The biggest difference between Sarah and I and the couples who write about cuckolding is that I am not included in on her love life with Shawn. I have no idea how well hung he is or any intimate details. Sarah does not discuss it with me. I sometimes hear them having sex but Sarah is not being loud on purpose to humiliate me. I hear them only because the walls in our house are not very thick.
I must admit that I do not like that she has a boyfriend but I dare not discuss it with her. I know she would say it is none of my business since I am now her slave. I dare not discuss it with her because I am afraid she will get upset and cut me off from worshipping her body. Now that she has a lover, I realize that she does not have to grant me access to her body. She is getting pleasure whether I am her male lesbian or not. I live for those sessions where she sits on my face and allows me to orally pleasure her. I do not want to do anything to jeopardize that. I have consented to allowing her to come and go as she pleases so I am abiding by my commitment. Sarah is my Mistress and I realize and submit to the fact that she can do whatever she pleases. Sarah requires me to work hard for her and orally servicing her or having her ride the sheath that goes over my chastity device are my rewards for hard work. Whippings and longer denial of access to her body are my punishments for disobedience or insubordination. I wish I could say that I am always the perfect slave to her but I have my bad moments so she deals with me accordingly.
Ms Elise, I love Sarah and overall I am happy. I must say that I love being a woman's slave and having a woman exert so much power and control over me. My only problem is that I struggle with negative thoughts at times. I am turning forty next month and I am still a young and healthy man. To be permanently denied and a slave to my wife is hard to handle emotionally at times, especially when she spends time with her young submissive lover. I have no legal recourse because I have willfully given her all that I had and I have consented to her liberation. I love her and I am happy most of the time in this role. It feels right and I love the submissive feelings that flood my mind when I am serving her. I guess I should count my blessings.
When I have negative emotions, it is not directed toward her but toward me. I sometimes feel that I have given her too much power over me and as I result, I have forfeited my human dignity. Don't get me wrong, I don't feel this way often as the majority of the time I feel at peace. But there are those moments that I feel that I want to know Sarah in an intimate way again through intercourse that I can actually feel. I am so use to this chastity device that I don't know where my flesh ends and the device starts. I get erect in my mind all of the time but cannot achieve it due to this device. I am so crazy about Sarah and I dream about servicing her body. I know she is selfish but I cannot resist her. Her selfishness makes her more attractive to me and I guess it is this that I despise about myself. I have no dignity in her eyes and that is what she wants. I wanted this since I was a child and I know if she were to free me tomorrow, I would desire to become her slave again.
So that is my dilemma. I fought this urge to be submissive all my life. Deep down, I knew this is where I was headed. I knew if I shared Female Domination with my wife, she would enslave me eventually. I feared this but I yielded to it nonetheless. Now there is no escape for me and even if there were, I do not want to escape. A part of me wants to go even deeper into submission to her. So there you have it from a forty year old, permanently chastened husband who is now his wife's slave. I guess my question to you is, Am I to be envied or pitied?