CUCKOLDRESS - SUBMISSIVE CUCKOLD
From Jeffrey A:
Ms Sutton, I introduced Female Domination to my wife and now I fear that it has gone too far. I want to get our relationship back to where it was but my wife will not hear of it. She says that she loves being a dominant and liberated wife and that she will never agree to go back. I don't know what to do because I can tell that she is happy with our current arrangement and she is serious about never going back.
I have no one to blame but myself. She knew nothing about Female Domination but I was the one who introduced her to it and encouraged her to embrace her dominant side. She was hesitant and refused at first. I should have dropped it at that point but I couldn't let well enough alone. I have had submissive desires since I was a boy and I wanted to experience a real FemDom marriage. I had visited Pro Dommes both before we were married and on a couple of occasions since we were married. I tried to put these desires behind me and become a traditional husband to my wife. I was able to do this the first couple of years we were married but my desire to be dominated by my wife kept creeping back into my life.
I didn't know about your site so I was not as subtle in my approach to tell my wife about Female Domination. I would tell her during sex. When I became excited, I would tell her that I would like to be her slave. She usually just ignored such comments but one day she asked me why I kept saying that I wanted to be her slave during sex. I told her about Female Domination and my submissive desires and she flat out rejected the idea. She said that men needed to be strong and the leader in a marriage and that is what she needed out of me.
I tried to be her dream husband but I slipped and yielded to my submissive temptations. When she told me that she would never agree to being a dominant wife, I started to see Pro Dommes again. My wife eventually found out because she keeps tabs on our money and she asked about a couple of 300 dollar withdrawals from our savings account. I was able to make up a good excuse the first time she asked but the next time, she caught me in a lie, so I confessed to her what I had done.
My wife threatened to leave me and I broke down and cried, confessing that I was a weak man and that I needed her. My show of genuine emotion touched my wife so she was willing to talk to me about why I needed to be dominated by women. She asked me to make her understand. I did not know how to go about this so I suggested that we visit my Dominatrix together. I was impressed by this woman's intelligence and I thought she might be able to relate to my wife. My wife agreed so I scheduled a joint session with the Dominatrix.
My wife was scared about meeting this woman. My wife was expecting a Satanist or a Witch. She did not understand what a Dominatrix was, even though I explained it to her. Once my wife met this woman and saw how beautiful and intelligent she was, my wife was impressed. This woman set my wife at ease and offered to demonstrate how to dominate a man. My wife agreed and the Pro Domme dominated me in front of my wife, taking the time to explain it to her and making plenty of humorous remarks to my wife to keep it light. This woman ended up spending the entire afternoon with us but only charged us for a 90 minute session.
That day changed my wife's opinion of Female Domination. The Dominatrix told my wife to think of Female Domination in the terms of the benefits to the woman. She suggested that my wife use my desire to be her slave to get me to do the housework and to be more accountable to her. This is what sealed my fate. My wife loved the notion of me doing the housework and having to give an account of all my comings and goings, while she could come and go as she pleased.
My wife no longer saw FemDom as being perverted or strange. She bought a leather outfit and a riding crop and she began to dominate me. My wife searched the Internet and found sites such as yours. My wife learned and she even took me back to see the Dominatrix again so she could get more hands on experience in how to dominate me. That first year was the best of my life. All of my fantasies had come true. My wife made me into her slave, she spanked and whipped me, and began to incorporate D&S into our sex life. It was a blast and I was never happier.
However, it didn't stop there. My wife surpassed me in how deep she wanted to go with Female Domination. She became almost obsessed with it. She bought books and her nightstand was filled with D&S and FemDom books and publications. Any time someone would visit our house, I had to make sure there were no FemDom materials lying around. My wife wanted to take me into deeper submission to her. She loved being a dominant woman.
I did all the housework and that was fun the first couple of months but she kept adding more chores on me. I work a fairly stressful job but my wife expects me to come home and do housework. If I don't, she punishes me. My wife also started to deny me orgasms. I was Ok with this at first as I liked the concept of me pleasuring her but her not returning the favor. But she kept extending the time between my orgasms. I have always masturbated a little behind her back but now I was doing it more often. My wife would check my balls and she could tell they were not as full as they should be. She knew I was masturbating so she got me a CB2000. Now I wear it most of the time around the house. I don't wear it to work but she knows I will not masturbate at my office. When I come home, I have to put it on, which takes me fifteen minutes. Once I have it on, I have to get started on my chores.
I no longer masturbate and I am aroused and sexually frustrated all of the time. This does help me to stay focused on my wife and makes being her slave bearable. Your advice on that is true. But what was happening was when my wife allowed me an orgasm, she wanted it to be by intercourse. But due to being denied, I would climax in seconds and this upset my wife. There is a story on your site where another woman had the same problem so she cut her husband off from intercourse and began to go out with other men for sex. My wife read that on your site and she decided that is what she needed to do since my quick ejaculations were denying her the pleasure of intercourse with a live cock.
My wife now goes out on the weekends with a couple of her female co-workers. Both of these women are young girls, in their early twenties. My wife is in her late thirties. My wife dresses up sexy and it drives me wild to see her looking so hot. But she goes out with her friends and I am left home to do chores. My wife does not totally ignore me. Some weekends my wife and I might go out to dinner and a movie, but at least one night most weekends my wife goes out with her female friends. They usually go bar hoping and dancing. I don't like it but my wife says she is a liberated wife and I have to submit. I have no choice and no say in the matter.
Two weeks ago, my wife stayed out all night. It was the first time this has ever happened. I asked her about it and she said she would give me the details the next time she dominated me in the bedroom. When that night came, my wife tied me to the bed, whipped me, and then began to take me with her strap-on. She got the idea for strap-on play from Anne Rice's novel "Exit To Eden" and from WHAP magazine. My wife is a big believer in dominating a husband through strap-on play.
As she was taking me with her strap-on the other night, she got extra forceful and bitchy. Then she dropped on me her revelation that she had sex with another man the night she stayed out all night. She met a young, handsome man at one of the bars she frequents with her female friends. She developed a friendship with this young man and she was attracted to him sexually.
My wife gave me the details of her sexual experience with him and how much she enjoyed having his nice sized cock inside of her. She said this man knew how to use his cock and that he didn't have a problem with premature ejaculations like I did. My wife kept slamming me with the dildo as she humiliated me about her sexual liberation. I will confess that I drifted into subspace and I was enjoying the moment. I even climaxed from the dildo and that was the first time that has ever happened. My wife told me that she would never bring another man into our house but she will on occasion have sex with other men. She enjoyed it more than she thought she would and she felt not the least bit guilty about it.
Ms Sutton, I enjoyed the moment when she was revealing her secret to me but this past week, I have been having problems dealing with it. I guess my orgasm brought me down off my submissive high and now the thought of my wife screwing other men is not so pleasurable for me. I've tried to let her know my feelings but she gets angry. She tells me that I was the one who encouraged her to develop her dominant side and now that she has, she says that it is not right of me to ask her to go back. I told her that we did not have to go all the way back but I didn't want her to sleep with other men. My wife told me that this is what gives her power over me and although she has only done it this one time so far, she knows that she could never give that power up.
I wonder sometimes if my wife is doing this to get back at me for introducing this lifestyle to her. Maybe she was happier the old way but since I brought her into this lifestyle, perhaps she is trying to get even with me by having an affair and then blaming me for it. On the other hand, perhaps my wife really does love her life the way it is now and I am being selfish by throwing water on her fire with voicing my negative remarks. My wife tells me that I can be a real downer sometimes.
I asked her the other night where all of this was heading and her answer really scared me. She told me that she would love to work me toward permanent denial and even feminize me. I do not desire this but I could see the determination on her face when she said it.
Ms Sutton, what should I do? I will confess to you that I enjoy aspects of our FemDom marriage. I like being dominated by her, disciplined and taken with her strap-on. I like it when she gets bitchy with me. I like it when she is getting ready to go out with her girlfriends and she dresses so hot. I feel overwhelmed with submission, knowing that she is going to be flirting with other men and I have to stay home and clean her house. The thought of this is exciting but I find the actual living of it is not. Doing chores gets old and now that my wife has crossed over the line and has actually had sex with another man, I find that I am enjoying my plight less and less. Is there any chance we could ever go back to being a more traditional husband and wife?
From Roger M:
Dear Mistress Elise, fortunately we have found your site a couple of days ago and now we book marked it as a main site to get information from, as well as education for our lifestyle.
We have been married for more than 12 years .. and initially we had normal sex. But before marriage, I had a tendency to be submissive and visit Mistresses to learn from and to submit. I was very much involved in this lifestyle before I got married and at that time I only could imagine to marry a Mistress and live out my submissive tendencies. When my now wife and I married we had no idea of what we would discover.
After several months of regular sex, I tried to introduce new ideas into our sex life. I have to admit that even before marriage, I liked the idea of being controlled by a Lady and fantasized about being a cuckold. This fantasy turned out to having me masturbate all the time ... and because of my frequent masturbating, my wife was getting less sexual satisfaction.
We got more involved in oral satisfaction. We introduced kinky role games with light bondage and soon, I was using dildo's and my tongue to satisfy her. I also purchased specific x-rated videos depicting ladies having more than one sex partner. It took a while to get my wife into the mood for a threesome but oftentimes we talked during sex about our fantasies. I knew my wife was attracted to a gentleman from the bank, so during our sex, I mentioned this gentleman having sex with her while I was watching it. She immediately climaxed hard.
After a while we discussed this and I encouraged her to see him and maybe have an affair. She was somewhat surprised, but I told her not to worry and that I would like to see this very much. I told her it would turn me on. Well, Bill, the gentleman from the bank, was invited over on a Friday night and the bulge in his pants showed my wife that he was as attracted to her as she was to him. He all had some drinks and after we all loosened up, I suggested that we watch some x-rated videos. The action on the videos got us all excited and before I knew it, my wife went over to Bill, undid his pants and began her sucking his dick in front of me. We got all naked and naturally I had a hard-on. My wife Mistress just smiled to me and continued her oral lubrication of the huge black shaft of this man. His dick was enormous. I cannot compare in size and once I reached my limit of orgasms from masturbating at watching them, I encouraged them to go upstairs and continue the sex in the bedroom Throughout the night I heard them moaning and instead of joining them in the bedroom, I preferred to listen and masturbate some more.
It may sound strange but I loved this situation. In the morning, I awoke and when I entered the bedroom, Bill was gone. My wife Mistress Cindy was watching another x-rated video was using a dildo on her shaved pussy. I have to mention that shaving became one of our fetishes too and we both clean our body hair regularly. Without any hesitation, I started licking her pussy and sucking the dildo covered with her cum. I enjoyed the taste and was horny like hell again. My wife Mistress opened her legs to allow me intercourse but she was stretched too much by her lover's huge cock. My cock did not affect her much and soon I took it out again. This was the start of my cuckoldry.
Cindy mentioned to me that from now on, she would like to be fucking Bill and that I could watch them and masturbate. I smiled to her and mentioned that this was what I also wanted. She gave me a passionate kiss while stroking my shaved cock. Well, the next weekend Bill was back. My wife Mistress had the biggest smile on her face. Cindy mentioned to Bill how good I was at cleaning her orally and how good I was sucking the her dildo the other day. She smiled and made the suggestion that since I was good at sucking the dildo, why could I not suck a real cock for her? She ordered me to crawl over to Bill. With a little hesitation, I started to suck Bill's cock. My wife Mistress saw my erection and called me a cock-sucker. After I was done warming Bill up, he fucked my wife right in front of me. Bill fucked my wife often the rest of the weekend and Mistress had me clean her out several times. My wife was forever sold on this new life.
I love her very much and at that time I made the suggestion to her that I would like to get a chastity belt. I was reading websites on this topic and it turned me on to be locked up and to have her holding the only key. We talked about it and she agreed to try it out. But how would I do without orgasms? I had to try it. It took about 4 weeks until the chastity belt arrived, it was the chastity tube. It measured well and it fit almost perfectly. When I presented it to my wife Mistress and gave her the key, she took it with a nice smile and a big kiss. From then on, I have been denied sexual intercourse.
My time periods between masturbation increased from once a week to once a month. Naturally, I changed and I became more submissive to her. My wife has agreed to allowing me monthly orgasms but it must be done her way. I am cuffed spread eagle on the bed and she climbs on me offering me her pussy lips. She knows how to tease me with slow strokes, and once I feel ready to explode, she stops. She enjoys these hour long torture teases. I lick her to many orgasms while she is teasing me. Finally, she masturbates me into a glass, which she empties into my mouth. She likes this recycle idea and I am now used to drinking my own cum. My cock then returns to its container and I have to thank her for giving me sexual release.
We have slowly moved to a D/S relationship and we both love it. I have to address her as Mistress and she now calls me her slave or her cock-sucker. She came up with the idea of creating a contract for our relationship mentioning all of my obligations. At home I do not wear much clothing but a neck collar with the name "slave of Mistress Cindy" as well as the chastity belt on my shaved body.
I did read online that cuckolded husbands were transformed into a more feminine way and I mentioned this to my wife Mistress. She loved that idea and it did not take too long for me to be wearing body stockings and a french maid dress with high heels. If I am not an obedient husband, as a punishment I am not allowed an orgasm for 2 months. I know that I am enslaved and denied while she is having plenty of orgasms between her lover and my oral servitude. Actually, she has more than one lover as she likes to go out and find other men to bring home to fuck.
Over time we created our own little play space in a room behind the garage. There is a cage, cross, but also hooks in the ceiling and in the floor to tighten me and stretch me. We now have plenty of toys, hoods and bondage equipment. Sometimes my wife will restrain me and whip me before she leaves on a date. I am left alone in the dark, restrained. Then later on my wife Mistress returns with some handsome lover and has sex with him, while I am left to listen to her moans of ecstasy. The bedroom is now my wife Mistress' territory and I do not penetrate it much except when ordered to enter. The cage has become my nightly location. It is pleasantly warm and all the interesting toys keep my fantasies in suspicion. What will be next? I am glad to have taken this route. We enjoy your site very much.