Femdom Domestic discipline:
The instruments you choose to use for punishment should be comfortable for you to handle. Naturally, as your experience grows, so will your collection, but for now we will only discuss the basic items to start you off.
The hairbrush is first and it must receive the honors of being the most popular item associated with "home type" corporal punishment. This is a solid old-fashioned hairbrush. Not one of the modern little plastic brushes. I refer to an oval-shaped hard wood brush with a nice flat back. You may have to look around a bit to find what you want. Be prepared to pay from fifteen to twenty dollars for a good one as it probably will be imported and made of expensive wood and bristles. An interesting place to look is antique shops. If you are lucky, you might find an authentic "turn of the century" model. If you do, chances are that it has been used at one time or another for the same purpose you have in mind. Your brush will last a lifetime, no matter how much you use it. It has been a symbol of spanking and home discipline for years and it is a must for your inventory. Once you have used it to spank your husband, it will become something like a badge of office. It is an object you can leave sitting out in the open and every time he sees it, he will be reminded of the role you each play. In addition to a hairbrush you should have at least one other paddle suitable for over the knee spanking. In a pinch a nice flat sandal or slipper will do the job quite effectively, especially on bare cheeks.
Next, you will have to obtain a larger paddle for more serious punishment, or as I call them, "stand-up sessions." You can make your own, or if that isn't feasible, can find a suitable alternative at any sporting goods store. Look for one that is shaped like a large ping-pony paddle and is used for a form of racquetball. Some even have holes drilled in them. The theory behind this is that the holes allow the air to rush through, therefore giving the paddle stroke more velocity. A handy substitute is a 24-inch wood ruler. Before using it, wrap about five inches of one end with a good non-slip tape to form a handle.
You should have at least one good leather strap for your collection. It should be of heavy grade cowhide, about 20 inches long and at least two inches wide. Good leather preservative should be rubbed in by hand on a regular basis. Besides making the strap pliable it gives it weight. Of course, your husband should be responsible for proper care of your straps. An alternative to a regular punishment strap is a leather belt. Simply double it and use it in the manner taking care of course to hold on to the buckle end. An old razor strap is a very effective instrument but the ones made today are really too light to be effective. Another type of strap you can make, have made, or purchase from a specialty store is called a "Tawse." It is a regular leather strap except the last few inches are split into "fingers." I can assure you that the feel of these fingers wrapping around a buttock or thigh is not soon forgotten.
Another absolute must for the woman who practices home discipline is an English school cane. This is a slender rattan switch about 30 inches long. Please do not confuse rattan with bamboo. The latter is not nearly as flexible. A good rattan cane can be bent until both ends touch and when released, will spring back to its original shape. It is light, whippy, and extremely painful. It has dual honors of being both the quietest and the most effective instrument in your inventory. It does not require any strength to use a rattan cane. The trick is to use a quick snap of the wrist and take advantage of its whippiness. When applied properly across a bare bottom or thigh it will leave a nice welt, which will show for days. Should you miss and strike too high or low it will sting terribly but will cause no serious harm. If you wish to punish your husband at home and there are children or others in the house the cane is ideal. It is very effective and silent or al least easily drowned out by just the television or moderate level music. Believe me, if you your husband has slow or sloppy work habits, a few strokes with this will bring about a change you wouldn't believe.
Femdom Domestic discipline:
POSITIONS OF PUNISHMENT
Just as the hairbrush is a must for spanking, spanking is a must for corporal punishment. By this I mean over-the-knee spanking, and no matter how big he is or how small you are, an over-the-knee spanking is possible. Let's begin with an average size man and woman. We will make no mistake who has superior physical strength. Just remember that it is your dominance and his desire to be submissive that puts him in the spankee position. What is this position? First find a sturdy chair or bench to sit on. It will have to support quite a bit of weight, weight that will be shifting back and forth, so it cannot be weak or flimsy.
Once you are seated, and assuming you spank with your right hand, have him stand at your right side. If you are going to lower shorts or pants, do it now -- not when he is over your lap. Put your brush or paddle in your lap and pull the pants well down below his knees. When you are ready to begin, tap your leg once or twice with the brush or paddle. At this visual command, he should quickly position himself across your lap. It is very important that he be trained to do this without hesitation. If you let him get into the habit of stalling after you have ordered him over, each time you give a spanking, it will become more difficult to get him to assume the position.
The first time he hesitates after being given the signal, stand up and beat his bottom and upper legs really hard. Try to become extremely determined and irritated with him, perhaps raising your voice and getting a more stern, irritated look in your eyes and scare him enough so that when you sit down and tap your leg again, he will almost jump across.
Once he is across your knee, give him a few moments to get used to the fact that he is about to be spanked. Begin by giving a couple of hard smacks, then stop. The initial sting will be quite a shock to his system. If you were to keep on, he would struggle so much out of reflex action it would be difficult, if not impossible, to hold him in place. This pause after the first few whacks will give him a chance to mentally gear himself for the ordeal to come. Give him a few more hard smacks and pause again. He will have started to squirm, but the smacks will have been given before any serious movement takes place. His body will be very tense as he awaits the next round of spanks. Wait for him to relax, and tell him to do so. Then resume the spanking.
Here are some ideas for you girls who have really big boys to spank. Your method will be the same, but your positioning will be a little different. Instead of him being over your knee while you sit in a chair, he will be across them while you sit on a bed or couch. His own knees will support most of his weight and elbows but his bare bottom will be right there waiting for your paddle. The important thing is that he is being spanked across your knee and this is what spanking is all about.
Even though I feel a good over-the-knee spanking will solve almost all of your discipline problems, there will still be times when other methods are necessary. An important part of his training is that he knows how to assume different punishment positions when you give the command. There are two basic positions for you to consider. These are the "bent over" and "laying down" positions. The best way for him to assume the first one is to face the back of a chair and then bend over it grasping the seat with his hands. If a chair isn't handy, just have him bend over and grab his ankles. The important thing is that he presents his bottom for you to punish. Apply your strokes to the fat portion of his behind. Make him remain in a bent over position until you are through. This will take considerable training, but if he knows you won't stop until he stays in position for a given amount of strokes, he will soon learn how to do it.
The next position where he lays down is suitable for any instrument. The preferred method is to have him lay face down on a long bench with his buttocks elevated slightly. The main advantage of this position is that you can really put considerable force into each swat, and by simply changing sides, you can see that each cheek gets equal attention.
Femdom Domestic discipline:
Lecture him quietly on why he is being spanked. Tell him if he weren't so bad and naughty you wouldn't have to spank his bottom so hard, that sort of talk. For the next series, give eight whacks. Continue to spank in this manner until you think he can take the remainder of the spanking, which should be thirty to fifty spanks without stopping.
A spanking should be an event to remember. Don't worry about how red his bottom gets. The more color you put into it, the better you are doing. Don't pay any attention to his cries and pleas and promises. He will tell you anything to get you to stop. Allow him to squirm within limits. If it gets out of hand, give him a smack or two on the back of his thighs. If you give a spanking the way it should be given, the results should still show a week later. He should wince every time he tries to sit for days after. When you are through spanking, or for that matter, giving any form of corporal punishment, be sure he thanks you for taking the trouble to correct him. If you feel it is appropriate have him go to a corner for at least thirty minutes. If you wish, make him stand there with his bottom bared. Do not allow him to talk, move, or rub his buttocks while he is there.
Femdom Domestic discipline:
If you feel the least bit sorry for him during all this, remember, a submissive man does not want a weak or lenient woman. He wants someone very strict and dominant. If he wanted anything different, he wouldn't be over your knees in the first place. This isn't a small child you are holding over your lap by force -- this is a grown man who needs and wants a hard spanking. Give it to him and pay no attention to his cries for mercy. The longer and harder you spank, the more he will love you for it.
Femdom Domestic discipline:
Domestic discipline, as described here, is probably practiced in many more homes than you and I would ever guess. If you were to see my husband and I in a restaurant or walking along the street, you would never guess in a hundred years that I spank him regularly. I sincerely believe that if more wives practiced let their husbands know they were capable of administering a good dose of woodshed discipline, the divorce rate would drop drastically.
Always remember the key traits of establishing a dominant disciplinary relationship. When handling discipline issues be firm but fair, strict, demanding, aloof and unyielding. Don't be afraid to degrade and humiliate, and above all, when that bare bottom is turned up side down across your knee waiting for the paddle or hairbrush, don't disappoint him. When you let him up, his eyes should be wet with tears, his knees should be quivering, and it should be obvious by looking at his bottom that he is displaying the marks left after a GOOD session.